RON’S MOM ON: THE ELECTION and FEAR

I have eight grandchildren of varying ages, living and growing up to be adults in several cities in this great United States. They all have different platforms, whether its beginning new jobs, attending college, high school or even preschool. They’ve had to deal with the bullying from their peers about mostly everything—from the way they look, to the clothes and shoes they wear—from their style and flair of dress, even to the cars they drive or don’t drive. However, in my view anyway, they are learning, to a certain extent, to deal with this kind of rhetoric and behavior.

 

 

Bullying has long been an issue in schools, though in the past year, something has changed. I’ve heard it from parents and my own kids. The say, “Kids are scared by the rhetoric they’re hearing.” What they’re hearing is now known as the “Trump Effect”.

 

 

Because of this rhetoric from Trump, some are using words like “terrified,” “heartbroken,” “scared.” And there are no patterns by age. This is happening to children of all ages.

 

 

How is this affecting the children? There are children who breaking down in tears. Mine are coming to me and their moms crying, trying to express why they’re feeling this way. They are very stressed and feeling very vulnerable right now.

 

 

 

What can we do or say to mitigate this damage, to alleviate fears? Some of the possible dangers could be real, and even we, their parents, are afraid. We are unsure about what to tell them. There’s no one piece of etc. What we CAN say is that they are safe right now. They are safe at home with us and at school.

 

 

Now that Trump’s rhetoric has gotten him elected President, we can tell them nothing happens that fast (though that’s not always the case). We can tell scared kids that there are checks and balances in the government; that even though someone is elected, it doesn’t mean what they say is going to happen. We can also remind them that most people don’t feel this way, and point out the allies. Provide the kids with positive role models, and positive ideals of themselves.

 
As we reassure our children, we also need to reassure ourselves.

 
Trump himself has said, “The final key to the way I promote is bravado. I play to people’s fantasies. People may not always think big themselves, but they can still get very excited by those who do. That’s why a little hyperbole never hurts. People want to believe that something is the biggest and the greatest and the most spectacular”.

 
I call it truthful hyperbole. It’s an innocent form of exaggeration — and a very effective form of promotion. So, we can listen to his rhetoric and can take wisdom from the words of Abraham Lincoln, “Elections belong to the people. It’s their decision. If they decide to turn their back on the fire and burn their behinds, then they will just have to sit on their blisters.” Either way, we have to convince ourselves and our children of what it says in Ephesians 6:11; “Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.”
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Ron’s Mom: The Jet

17 Comments

  1. The children are crying because they are reacting to their parents’ comments, not facts. (because we don’t know any facts yet). I also felt such fear after other elections and it all proved fruitless. We can only bind together and work together to unite this country – not tear it apart and fuel the fears of children. ‘A country divided against itself, can not stand…’ ___ Abe Lincoln

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    1. Thanks for the comments GP. I like that you also quoted Abe. One thing though, the children are hearing these things from every source—the media, other kids, teachers. Parents cannot sheild them from the rhetoric. I too, explained to mine– I’ve lived through many elections and each day the sun rose as usual.

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    2. The fact is that, children ARE crying and they’re not crying just because of something that their parents are telling them.

      1. They are crying because of what they see and hear on Social Media

      2. They are crying because of what they see and hear on Mainstream media.

      3. They are crying because of what their peers are saying.

      4. They are crying because of facts ALREADY in evidence;

      a. Facts in evidence that have come “straight from the horses mouth”.

      b. Facts that can be ascertained, logically through, “a posteriori”, reasoning.

      5. I personally, have no such fears nor do I pass any such fears along to my children, but my children still have concerns and fears.

      6. My fears are allayed by the fact that, contrary to popular belief, there is a fourth element, in the system of “checks and balances”, which is “We the People”. And just as the base of Trump’s campaign rose up to put him in office, there is a “base” who did not rise up as they did in 2008 and 2012, and who have been given a “wake up call”, just as Trump’s base was given a wake-up-call, in ’08 and ’12.

      Trump’s base will grow complacent in 2-4 years, just as Obama’s base grew complacent, and the pendulum will, once again, swing the other way.

      The pendulum of power, always swings; first one way, then back the other. It never stops.

      Each successive swing will bring about changes in; laws, attitudes, policies etc. Then when it swings back, the most radical changes will be “repealed and replaced” with new ones which will, in turn, be disposed of when the pendulum swings once again. The pendulum never adds to it’s cycle, it only rids itself of excessive energy and motion, but always remaining balanced.

      Since Kennedy, the Republicans have enjoyed 28 years of leadership of this country, while the Democrats have had 26, almost an equal balance, and it will continue this way, as long as our democracy survives.

      “There is nothing to fear but fear itself” ~FDR

      “When two initially isolated systems in separate but nearby regions of space, each in thermodynamic equilibrium with itself but not necessarily with each other, are then allowed to interact, they will eventually reach a mutual thermodynamic equilibrium. The sum of the entropies of the initially isolated systems is less than or equal to the total entropy of the final combination. Equality occurs just when the two original systems have all their respective intensive variables (temperature, pressure) equal; then the final system also has the same values”. ~Isaac Newton’s Second Law of Thermodynamics.

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  2. Ron that is a brilliant concept of using The Second Law of Thermodynamics to illustrate a point! I salute you as an astute commentator (I’ve copied & pasted it for future reference!)
    In turn you are correct in raising this concern of children’s fear (One of my child fears in the 1950s & 1960s was nuclear war)
    Having witnessed one UK backlash against the presidential election which seems to blame all US citizens for the result and displays a level of crass ignorance which is a mirror image of some of the extreme elements in the US I find myself strangely open minded, along the lines of:
    “OK. You wanted it. You got it. Let’s see what you do with,”
    I am hoping in both the US & UK (Brexit) that sober dialogue breaks out amongst the various parties and constructive progress is made.
    In conclusion, if it’s Hate or Vitriol I don’t care which side of the political divide it comes from I’m against it (which is why I’m kinda politically homeless at the present)
    All the best to you Ron.
    Take care.
    Roger

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  3. Thanks Roger! I’m with you on the “open-mindedness”. Let’s see what happens. At least the rusty old wheels of our government will be moving, which is more than can be said for the last several years. Now whether they’ll be moving in the right direction, that we’ll have to wait for.

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  4. This is sad but a good read. It’s sad to see children having to go through bullying, especially when they are supposed to enjoy their innocent childhood. Bullying is something schools still haven’t been able to tackle, and it’s sad in many cases teachers don’t care or overlook it. Be it America or UK, children are looking towards suicide as the cure for this dilemma.
    Trump has just added to this ongoing problem.

    Thank you for sharing this post.

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  5. I am a southern Christian white guy whom deplores all forms of bullying, racism and hate. Yet I know that it does exist in our Country and it makes me sick at my Soul. Yesterday I heard that a 19 yr old black man got stopped by a Chicago Cop who was a Sergeant who has been on the force for 10 yrs. The young man took off running because as his Mom said “he was scared of the police”. A foot chase then occurred and the young man got shot and killed by the Officer. The Officer said that the young man pointed a gun at him yet no gun has been found yet. For some unacceptable reason the Precinct this Officer is hooked to does not have the body cameras yet, so there is no known video. The idea that a person or people are so scared of the police that they take off running from them is unacceptable on both ends of this issue. I know there are bad Cops, I have come across many in my lifetime, but what all people must do if they want to stay alive when you are in the presence of a ‘bad Cop’ is to keep your mouth shut, obey and comply. When we do anything other than that we are putting our own lives at risk. We must all teach our kids to do this, without exception. We the people can not act like idiots and thugs and expect a good result to come out of an encounter with the Police. All Police Departments in our Country on their part need to filter out the loud mouthed, arrogant, racists, bullies within their Departments, starting at the top of their food chain. That is the only way ‘goodness’ can flow down hill to their members. I’m just saying…

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